When you look into the mirror do you see yourself or a mixture of external expectations and highly imposed standards?
Comparing yourself to others will be the death of your true nature, this raw part of yourself that you knew so well as a child, or in a moment of pure bliss and joy. The part of you that is vulnerable but confident in its own being, its purpose of being here on Earth.
You will not reach your goals when you give all of your energy into pursuing someone else’s visions.
This habit of comparing yourself to others is extremely unhealthy. It imposes on us a set of self-destructive limitations. It can only leave us feeling average and thus making it harder to recognize our true potential. Comparison became a habit indeed. We are running on autopilot whenever we dive into the world of social media, where we usually become unconscious and most vulnerable to what we perceive. We are numbly scrolling through posts, videos utterly giving in to the influence of everything we stumble upon the way, without being aware of how much effect social media exert on us.
If we believe that we indeed are as average as we feel (because of the illusion of somebody’s life on Instagram) our actions will become average.
The detrimental obsession
We have been conditioned to care. We have unconsciously programmed our minds trying to fit into some whimsical standards of people, who we do not even like or become inspired by. We tend to blindly follow those societal structures hoping they will bring us happiness and satisfaction.
And yet we became so familiar with accessing ourselves through achievements of others that it merely became a habit. We are running on autopilot whenever we dive into the world of social media or television, where we usually become unconscious of our observations. We are numbly scrolling through posts, videos giving in to the influence of everything we stumble upon the way. We are not even remotely aware of how much effect social media exert on us.
If we believe that we indeed are as average as we feel (because of the illusion of somebody’s life on Instagram), our actions will become average as well.
They constitute the essence of who you truly are. Thereafter, this quality is being translated upon everything you participate in, everyone you interact with.
You have been given this life for a reason. Explore it. Explore varieties that come with it. Choose your own, unique preferences and sum up your own conclusions.
ou have been given this life for a reason.
You have met these particular circumstances and you have already been given the right tools to cope with them.
Comparison only hinders your growth. Comparison stems from lack. Lack means suffering, chasing after the illusion because you are convinced that once you achieve that which you want, you will feel better.
Jealousy, pride, being judgmental are negative emotions. All negative emotions stem from fear. We are afraid of being forgotten, mistreated, abandoned. Fear is a response to the need for survival. It is natural, there is no need to be harsh on yourself or anybody else for being human. The ego is primarily driven by fear in order to strengthen our system of self-worth.
What do I mean by that is acknowledging our fears, hopes and dreams, learning to accept our failures as a milestone to growth and becoming better at being us, along with accepting our interests, not necessarily suitable with the affection of others. Are we afraid to stand our ground and present different preferences than somebody else? Just imagine how dull and plain our lives and conversations would become; going to a restaurant with no menus because everyone is ordering the same, opts for the same meal, no varieties of coffee and pie whatsoever. What a horrifying world to live in!
Focus on the best possible outcome
We have so easily programmed our minds in search of challenges and obstacles that we have forgotten the obvious approach. Focusing our attention on the positive. It sounds like a cliche, but for a reason.
There are so many possibilities in our lives.
We create. We exchange ideas. We grow. We fail and we learn. We master.
You have so many undiscovered talents. You can write. You can read. You can swim. You can dance. You can jog. You can travel. You can laugh. You can cook. You can build. You can choose.
So many people are not able to do half of the listed things above and chances are that you can and still you are not using your full potential.
Instead of whining that you don’t have these objects or you do not possess certain skills, somebody’s talents start seeing obstacles as opportunities. Chances to learn and to grow.
Observe. Get inspired. Take that meeting. Approach every task with curiosity and experiment.
Like attracts like.
Once you notice your possibilities, you will attract endless ways to make use of them.
Please, just do not focus on the lack, the inconvenience. Because there is none.
There is only abundance and growth.